Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, bestselling parenting educator Barbara Coloroso offers a unique, practical, and compassionate book destined to become a groundbreaking guide to this escalating problem. Coloroso helps readers recognize the characteristic triad of bullying: the bully who perpetrates the harm, the bullied who is the target (and who may become a bully), and the bystander, the peers, siblings, or adults who don't act to defuse the situation. Readers learn: What bullying is and what it isn't; the three kinds of bullying; and the differences and similarities between boy and girl bullies. Why contempt, not anger, drives bullying. Why hazing is a form of bullying and how cliques feed the problem. The differences between teasing and taunting and between flirting and sexual bullying. How to read the subtle clues that a child is being bullied. Four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to a bully. Seven steps to take if your child is a bully. How to help the bullied child heal effectively, discipline rather than punish the bully, and increase a child's ability to take positive action. Why teaching a "code of compassion" is a more powerful antidote to bullying than conflict resolution techniques. Why zero tolerance policies can equal zero thinking. How to evaluate a school's antibullying policy and much more.