Good enough parent.
New York : Vintage Books, 1988, ©1987
|描述：||xiv, 377 pages ; 24 cm|
|内容：||Part one: Parent and child. By way of introduction : the importance of early experiences ; Expert advice or inner experience? ; Parent or stranger? ; Their reasons, and ours ; School performance : a divisive issue ; Our common humanity ; The question "why?" ; On empathy ; About discipline ; Why punishment doesn't work ; Exploring childhood as an adult ; Telling children about their parents' past --
Part two: Developing selfhood. Achieving identity ; Play : bridge to reality ; Understanding the importance of play ; Play as problem-solving ; Play and reality : a delicate balance ; Parents and play : the double standard ; Proving oneself through contest ; Unconscious sources, real achievements ; Beyond winning and losing ; Becoming civilized --
Part three: Family, child, community. Ideal and reality ; The ties that bind ; Seeking a rightful place ; The supportive family ; Magic days ; Not believe in Santa Claus? ; The "real" Santa, the Easter bunny, and the devil.
This book suggests how parents can develop their own insights into childrearing, how to comprehend the behavior of children, and how to cope with situations in ways most beneficial to the child's well-being. Above all, Bettelheim warns, parents must not indulge their impulse to try to create the child they would like to have, but should instead help each child fully develop into the person he or she would like to be.