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The state of affairs : rethinking infidelity

Author: Esther Perel
Publisher: New York : HarperCollins, New York, NY : Harper, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2017. [2017] ©2017
Edition/Format:   eBook : Document : English : First editionView all editions and formats
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"Affairs, the author argues, have a lot to teach us about the human heart--what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many
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Genre/Form: Electronic books
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Additional Physical Format: Print version:
Perel, Esther.
State of affairs.
New York, New York : Harper, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, 2017
(OCoLC)1005357589
Material Type: Document, Internet resource
Document Type: Internet Resource, Computer File
All Authors / Contributors: Esther Perel
ISBN: 9780062322609 0062322605
OCLC Number: 1005097933
Notes: Electronic book.
Description: 1 online resource.
Contents: Part I: setting the stage. A new conversation about marriage and infidelity --
Defining infidelity: is chatting cheating? --
Affairs are not what they used to be. Part II: the fallout. Why betrayal hurts so much: death by a thousand cuts --
Little shop of horrors: do some affairs hurt more than others? --
Jealousy: the spark of eros --
Self-blame or vengeance: the dagger cuts --
To tell or not to tell?: the politics of secrecy and revelation. Part III: meanings and motives. Even happy people cheat: mining the meanings of affairs --
An antidote to deadness: the lure of the forbidden --
Is sex ever just sex? The emotional economics of adultery --
The mother of all betrayals? Affairs among other marital misdemeanors --
The lover's dilemma: conversations with the other woman. Part IV: ever after. Monogamy and its discontents: rethinking marriage --
After the storm: the legacy of an affair.
Responsibility: Esther Perel.
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"In her opinion, confronting and unearthing the why behind an affair with honesty and courage, can steer a relationship back from brink--possibly towards a place of erotic rediscovery."--Esquire Read more...

 
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